How Healing Your Inner Child Attracts Soul-Mates

(Disclaimer: This is a pretty emotional and deep post-you may see something that will bring up suppressed emotions not yet dealt with-proceed with caution. And by the way, I made it as light as I could 😀 hehe ) 

Children are beautiful. Children are unique. Children are free-spirited geniuses.

Children don’t ask to be born but only cherished, appreciated, and accepted unconditionally as they are.

But what happens when a child is not accepted as they are? How does your inner-child connect to attracting soul-mates? Do you really sit around thinking about stuff like this?

Probably not.

Yet, I wanted to explore this topic since soul-mate hood evidently is kinda my thing.

And not to mention, healing your inner-child does attract soul-mates. Let’s delve deep into an ocean called deepness inner-child stuff-ness…okay yeah you know what I mean-hopefully. (Do I even know what I’m talking about?)

What is an Inner-Child?

Perhaps when you hear the word inner child you think of a little midget sized kid who lives in your head, giving you spontaneous urges to watch Disney movies, and beg your parents for the new toy that’s being displayed in some infomercial. But I am sorry, you are horribly wrong.

The inner-child, according to a guy named John Bradshaw, is the sum of our childhood emotions and memories stored unconsciously. Point blank, it is the “little you” stored away that in some way seeks healing.

Sadly enough, as we grow older this inner-child can be suppressed and not properly “nourished”, in a sense.

We starve the inner child when we invalidate our emotions, we hurt the inner-child when we no longer do what brings us personal excitement, we abuse the inner-child when we think being “grown” means a life of pain and suffering-and that this is just the way it is and will always be. 😦 (Why ya gotta be so ruuude?)

The inner child is an abstract concept, but in layman’s terms- the inner child is the collection of your deeper childlike needs that when gone unmet, will end in elaborate and ego-based ways of getting these needs met.

Like the person who really wants a pat on the back, but instead they go out of their way to work hard and get a Masters Degree-just to feel important and get a pat on the back. The core need was a need for recognition and affirmation.

Or consider a person who is having an argument with their significant other and they say something very mean to damage the persons self worth-the core need here would be having someone be dependent on your love and affection so you feel wanted. (Sorry if I exposed anyone here!)

The inner child is a tricky little kid who will destroy everything in your life just to ironically feel loved.

How do you heal the inner child?

I will give you some simple exercises you can do to heal the inner child because I truly believe that when your inner child is not healed, then you will sabotage a loving relationship when it shows up-and it will be so much more difficult to manifest a soul-mate/ideal mate. Again, if any of these exercises causes intense emotional discomfort then stop and come back to it later. Let’s go!

1. Get in touch with your inner child by making a list of things you really enjoyed doing as a child. If need be ask your care takers what you did most as a child. Did you play an instrument? Did you run around a field of grass? (Could convert to jogging by the way) Or perhaps you were a little Picasso at finger painting. Find these thing and make time to do it again, and while you are doing them, check in on your feelings. Is there a part of you that feels this is ridiculous? This could be your inner-critic invalidating the experience-tell that sucker to shut it 😛

2. Imagine, throughout your day, how you would interact with a small child. Would you tell a two year old child that they are stupid? Would you tell a four year old that he/she would never be successful in life? Would you feed a child until they became obese? Treat yourself and speak to yourself the way you would a small child-this is a sure fire way to nourish the inner child. Getting into this habit of “mindfulness” will help you be aware of how you are treating yourself and repeating horrible patterns.

3. Letting go of painful experiences and shifting your story around the pain. Easier said than done…but it can be done. Let’s say you were bullied as a kid or perhaps your parents were so busy working that they weren’t always around to be actual “parents” What inner-story do you have around this? Do you consider yourself unworthy of love?How does this play out in your current relationships? Being able to identify and be honest with the pattern is half the battle of healing.

4. Ask new “positive” questions! Now try shifting the story-say things like-Why do so many people currently accept me for who I am? Why do I have so many good friends in my life now? What can I do now to nourish my inner-child? When you ask new questions, the world will give you new answers and your inner-child will appreciate this deeply. Ask at least one of these a day-I do like 20 of them by the way-hence my perpetual smile 🙂

5. Finally, get out and have fun! Realize that cars run off of gas-and the inner-child thrives off of fun in all its forms. I know I said it before but fun is the magical, underestimated medicine for the soul.

There are many other ways of healing but I am not interested in writing a dissertation, you know what I mean? Use google search, you’ll be alright 😉

Just realize that this helps attract soul-mates because you are making your energy field brighter and lighter-and as you increase the light in your soul-it will shine forward and attract others who are practicing self-love as well. Simple as that.

Alright so this was a pretty heavy post but kudos to the brave who read through! I wish you well in your journey, comment below, share and also check more posts.

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Well, pure love be with you all! Namaste!

-London Holt

 

How Authenticity Attracts Soul-Mates 101

“Another post about being yourself London? How many times are you gonna say it? Everyone knows this already!”

Or do they?! 🙂

Okay, so in lieu of me having finished the final chapter of the book I had been working on titled How to Align With Your Soulmate: Why Authenticity Is The Catalyst In Your Love Life!- I honestly felt the need to do more post like these. Especially considering that it has been almost a year since my last post.

And, in addition to that I have learned so much more about soulmate-hood.

Don’t underestimate the power of authenticity for even a moment, or something bad will happen to you!

Yeah, though so…

In reality, my views are much more metaphysically and “controversial” as some have told me, but if I am gonna tell others to be authentically themselves-then I gotta practice what I preach right? Of course I do, or I will slip on a banana peel. And that stuff hurts yo 😦

How do you define authentic dating, and what benefit is it to me? 

If the above question has not popped into your head then you should be asking why authentic dating is different then from, say, a random blind date with your sibling’s cute friend. (Wait, is that just me?) Anywho, Authentic Dating is dating from a place of pure resonance and knowing what you want, while being brave enough to not only be yourself but going after what you truly desire, even in the face of “failure”-(Tempted to go on a rant right now, but this will be a future post.)

But what is the benefit? You attract very quality partners!!! I know from experience and testimony!

But of course there is much more to just “being yourself” and running around asking people out to wine and dine all willy-nilly. Thus I, and many others, wrote a book about it.

Do you see how much I love this dreadful world that slips up? lol (Just go with it!)

So where do you start? 

You start right now, at your laptop-iPad-grandma’s computer or wherever you are.

Authenticity is in the now.

More practically, just ask yourself-how can I be more of myself today? You see, being an authentic dater is something that helps you win out in the long run. Instead of kissing 20 sumthin’ frogs you go out with 5 Charmings or Cinderellas and choose from the cream of the crop.

And, when someone senses this they will respect it deeply. Don’t fall for the trap of selling yourself, as I’ve discussed before.

On the contrary however, I don’t think the real question is about starting, but why one has yet to start.

What are you so afraid of?

The fear of authenticity- if it were a disease, then our society would be an epidemic on a pogo-stick campaigning in the hearts of many with no rest attached to a bullet train shouting ” I got you suckas!”. (run on sentence or nah?)

Seriously, I feel and have personally analyzed that the world we live in conditions us to not be authentic. Instead most people put on a mask and pretend to be someone else, while also covertly trying to get their needs met (a recipe for disaster and depression).

Were you raised with a certain religious background with which you disagree and are afraid of being disowned? Still have yet to come out the closet? Do you like watching japanese anime in your underwear?!

The pain of it all.

Yet, the fact of the matter is that you can procrastinate on doing your laundry, or even warming up your TV dinner, but you never procrastinate when it comes to being yourself.

Practical Tip-Try being open with a close friend about something you may have been hiding. Ask yourself, what am I afraid of losing? And think how has this caused me to pull away or hide parts of myself in relationships. Be honest!

Metaphysical Jibberish-Being yourself charges your soul allowing you to be set into resonance with what you truly desire-some call it Karma, The Law of Attraction/ Resonance or reaping what you sow. Being authentic sends a message to The Universe to reflect back to you your true desires, uncolored by others expectations and conditions-This is why Authenticity is the key to soul-mates. Eh, deep enough?

Okay, well I don’t want to type too much but seriously to those who are reading-please learn the value of being yourself and that it is a pre-requisite to manifesting your soul mate! Give people the chance to fall fully for who you are and experience true unconditional love…or slip on a banana. Enough said.

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-London Holt