How Authenticity Attracts Soul-Mates 101

“Another post about being yourself London? How many times are you gonna say it? Everyone knows this already!”

Or do they?! 🙂

Okay, so in lieu of me having finished the final chapter of the book I had been working on titled How to Align With Your Soulmate: Why Authenticity Is The Catalyst In Your Love Life!- I honestly felt the need to do more post like these. Especially considering that it has been almost a year since my last post.

And, in addition to that I have learned so much more about soulmate-hood.

Don’t underestimate the power of authenticity for even a moment, or something bad will happen to you!

Yeah, though so…

In reality, my views are much more metaphysically and “controversial” as some have told me, but if I am gonna tell others to be authentically themselves-then I gotta practice what I preach right? Of course I do, or I will slip on a banana peel. And that stuff hurts yo 😦

How do you define authentic dating, and what benefit is it to me? 

If the above question has not popped into your head then you should be asking why authentic dating is different then from, say, a random blind date with your sibling’s cute friend. (Wait, is that just me?) Anywho, Authentic Dating is dating from a place of pure resonance and knowing what you want, while being brave enough to not only be yourself but going after what you truly desire, even in the face of “failure”-(Tempted to go on a rant right now, but this will be a future post.)

But what is the benefit? You attract very quality partners!!! I know from experience and testimony!

But of course there is much more to just “being yourself” and running around asking people out to wine and dine all willy-nilly. Thus I, and many others, wrote a book about it.

Do you see how much I love this dreadful world that slips up? lol (Just go with it!)

So where do you start? 

You start right now, at your laptop-iPad-grandma’s computer or wherever you are.

Authenticity is in the now.

More practically, just ask yourself-how can I be more of myself today? You see, being an authentic dater is something that helps you win out in the long run. Instead of kissing 20 sumthin’ frogs you go out with 5 Charmings or Cinderellas and choose from the cream of the crop.

And, when someone senses this they will respect it deeply. Don’t fall for the trap of selling yourself, as I’ve discussed before.

On the contrary however, I don’t think the real question is about starting, but why one has yet to start.

What are you so afraid of?

The fear of authenticity- if it were a disease, then our society would be an epidemic on a pogo-stick campaigning in the hearts of many with no rest attached to a bullet train shouting ” I got you suckas!”. (run on sentence or nah?)

Seriously, I feel and have personally analyzed that the world we live in conditions us to not be authentic. Instead most people put on a mask and pretend to be someone else, while also covertly trying to get their needs met (a recipe for disaster and depression).

Were you raised with a certain religious background with which you disagree and are afraid of being disowned? Still have yet to come out the closet? Do you like watching japanese anime in your underwear?!

The pain of it all.

Yet, the fact of the matter is that you can procrastinate on doing your laundry, or even warming up your TV dinner, but you never procrastinate when it comes to being yourself.

Practical Tip-Try being open with a close friend about something you may have been hiding. Ask yourself, what am I afraid of losing? And think how has this caused me to pull away or hide parts of myself in relationships. Be honest!

Metaphysical Jibberish-Being yourself charges your soul allowing you to be set into resonance with what you truly desire-some call it Karma, The Law of Attraction/ Resonance or reaping what you sow. Being authentic sends a message to The Universe to reflect back to you your true desires, uncolored by others expectations and conditions-This is why Authenticity is the key to soul-mates. Eh, deep enough?

Okay, well I don’t want to type too much but seriously to those who are reading-please learn the value of being yourself and that it is a pre-requisite to manifesting your soul mate! Give people the chance to fall fully for who you are and experience true unconditional love…or slip on a banana. Enough said.

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-London Holt

A Dating Red Flag and Trap You Must Know To Prevent Heart Break! (Dating Trap One-Marketing Trap)

Okay, so what the heck is a dating trap and why does it sound like a death sentence?

Because it is!!!!!

Upon reading an amazing book by David Steele, Conscious Dating The Book, I had even more powerful insights to share with people.

In addition to David Steele’s information there is a whole host of other sites  and sources I am pulling from, including my own experiences in dating, so be ready for a powerful, metaphysical, nerdy, witty take on some stuff that really makes the difference between relationship success-or certain heart break.

I care for everyone and that is why I am doing this blog just so you know (awww, how cute London!) Yes I know, I am your information sugar daddy lol

WHAT IS THE MARKETING TRAP ALREADY?
Calm down my fellow info junky, let me answer one question first, and that  is; what is a dating trap? Well, Mr. Steele defines a dating trap as a preventable mistake that when made in Dating and Relationships will lead to inevitable conflict, and eventual frustration and separation.

In other words, you do this and you will end up in a long line for divorce or separation. Yet for my singles and those of you who aren’t married yet, you can avoid these traps and also a painful heart break. (And these traps apply to everyone, no matter your sexual orientation)

The marketing trap is simply putting on a show when you meet someone. That’s it.

Now, I can hear some people saying, “Oh, but everyone does that! Everyone puts on their best show while dating.” Yes, this is true, but to a certain extent.

You see, in the marketing trap people tend to put on a facade to woo you over, or you as the person setting the trap will say whatever you need to hit the jack pot. (Whatever that is for you personally)

Examples of The Marketing Trap Are as Follows:

1. Guy meets girl, they like each other, they go out on date but guy shows up in his dad’s Bentley. Guy even goes so far as to arrange a date at a very fancy restaurant. He pays a lot of money for a fancy meal, and does it all in cash! The issue? Home boy works at Pizza Hut. Yeah, those were his tips from the last nine months…

Outcome: After getting together, they argue about money, but he sells her the promise of more…she eventually leaves for a guy with more money.(I ain’t saying she a gold digger)

2. Girl meets guy, they like each other and they go to a beach. Girl acts very ditzy, and “easy” allowing the guy to dominate the conversation and even pretend like she doesn’t know the answer to simple questions. The issue? She was just accepted into Harvard Law School. I know, this is a good thing but again she is ” not being herself” Guy falls for the facade.

Outcome: They begin dating, but the guy is very aggressive and a chauvinistic (fill in bad word of choice here). The woman feels like her “voice” is not being heard and that her intelligence is not appreciated. He leaves her for a girl who plays a better part of an “air head” so he can feel like a “man”-whatever that means.

Alright, I had another but I am sure you get the point now, right?

The Marketing Trap is when someone inherently does not feel like they are good enough as they are, so they put up a perpetual facade only to feel unloved later in the relationship and mislead their victim.

This trap leads to another phenomenon for those who get very serious called the “Who the heck did I may marry effect”

It is very sad, but sometimes instead of falling in love with someone we can fall for the illusion, the facade instead of the truth. Some break their own hearts by ignoring this red flag/trap. 😦

So why is this important to know?

How can someone prevent this horrible trap?

Furthermore, are you the one being trapped, doing the trapping, or both?

(This is where you reflect and get a huge insight, okay?)

Enlightenment! 

The way you overcome this trap is simple, and you have already heard me say it over and over in my other posts-and I say it a lot while coaching people as many don’t do this!

Be yourself! Yes, from the first date be who you are.

Let your obnoxious laugh erupt.

Talk about your addiction to RPG games.

I am not saying scare the person away with eccentric individualism, but you will intuitively know when you are not being you. It will be a gut feeliing-sort of like that annoying voice from  a GPS that lets you know you need to redirect and align with the true you!

That way if someone falls for you, then it will be with the real you-not some mask you purchased from a dollar store last minute before Halloween (Wait, am I the only person who does that?)

The bottom line is simple,

In order for The Universe to send you what you want, you must be willing to say no to what you don’t want so as to receive that which you truly deserve. 

Boom! Another Explosive Insight (A.E.I) haha

I have been a trapper many times in my life and I know that women do not like when guys put up a facade. In fact, when I think of the women who broke up with me, and who I broke up with it usually connected to this trap in some way shape or form. Just be you, because no one else can that for you.

But, it doesn’t end here!!! (Duh, duh, duhhh!)

Did you know that there are altogether 14 Dating Traps! Again, they all are listed in David Steele’s book. I will blog about the other traps as well in beautiful detail.

But, have no fear for now just apply and master this first one.

Leave a comment about when this trap has played a part in heart break for you, let your experiences be a lesson for someone else!

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Alright, that is all for now-Peace.

Yin and Yang Dating, How Your Affinity Affects Your Dating Life

The Yin and Yang symbol is very popular, yet do you know the true meaning of this symbol? 

The Yin-Yang symbol comes from Chinese Philosophy and is a symbol of balance, with both pieces being unique yet connected and complimentary.

But how does this symbol connect to your dating life?

You see, everything has a yin and yang aspect to it. (as pictured above)

For instance, even inhaling is considered yin and exhaling yang!

However, when it comes to dating you want to make sure you are using both of these energies to manifest a balanced relationship.

So are you a yin, yang, or balanced dater?

DISCLAIMER: I wanted to note that yin and yang is dualistic in nature, yet when it comes to the nature of the yin and yang it can also be considered a spectrum, regardless of gender or sexual orientation. You may in fact show qualities of both to a certain degree so keep this in mind as you read this post!

Yin Dater-A Yin dater is very shy and prefers for others to make the first move. A yin dater also spends much time fantasizing about potential romance so much so that they may even fall for an internal fantasy, instead of the actual person!

If you are a yin dater then you have a skill for working on your own baggage, and going through deep levels of reflection after a date to get a better picture of what you want in a relationship.

However, a yin dater must take more action! Don’t always wait for the other person to make the first move, this is also because if you are a yin dater than you may be a tad bit more emotional. Thus, in relationships you would also need to work on expressing your emotions and not bottling them up; only to have your emotions explode or turn into festering resentment.

Yin is a powerful energy for healing, yet yang is just as important so lets see if you are a yang dater.

Yang Dater-Having an abundance of yang energy while dating can make for a very exciting romantic life! If you are a yang dater then you are the person who makes the first move, chooses the dates and even parks the car 😉

In other words, yang energy is all about action, which balances out the yin energy. However, there is a weakness in having too much yang energy; that is, sometimes yang daters can be very cocky, overbearing and risk using dating and relationships as a way to escape their inner turmoil.

Too much yang energy can cause you to search for dating and love as a form of escapism!

Yang is a wonderful energy to cultivate, but too much can hurt you, unfortunately. Yang daters can benefit from meditation, deep reflection and also keeping a journal to get those emotions down on paper.

Yet, is there a way to get the best of both worlds? Of course there is!

Balanced Dater-Yin and yang are not energies in competition with one another, but two forces meant to work harmoniously together. You may, like most, have several qualities that are yin and yang in nature yet being a balanced dater is idea.

A balance dater knows when to take action, but also when to look within and question your motives in pursuing someone.

A balanced dater will take the time to work on personal baggage and self love and work from this “complete” space to manifest a loving relationship.

A balanced dater is a conscious dater who takes into consideration the subsequent effect of their actions on others, and also themselves (mindfulness).

Cultivating the yin and yang balance however is much easier than most would tell you and it is even something I teach in my Relationship Coaching practice; as well as conscious dating.

So which type of dater are you currently? Which energy do you need more of to balance yourself, yin or yang? Think about it.

In the meantime, have a wonderful day!

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-Conscious Creation Singles and Relationship Coach London Holt

Dating Tip Consciousness Code #1…How to Keep a Conversation Going Without Looking Awkward

Congratulations! S/he finally said yes and you have a date, or perhaps you are already in a relationship and are just headed to a favorite restaurant.

Either way, you may eventually come to the dreaded “awkward silence” where the sound of crickets are akin to the noise of a heavy metal rock group.

We have all been there. 😦

Have no fear, a Relationship Coach is here! Here are a few tips on how to overcome this seemingly inevitable situation.

Codes of Consciousness advice bit one1– Realize that silence is not a bad thing. In fact, I would say embrace it. Silences isn’t harmful , but how one relates to and perceives silence can amplify awkwardness.

Next time take a deep breath and make sure you are breathing in through the nose and out through the mouth, and be aware of your body. Make sure you are in the moment, because you can’t have a good conversation while daydreaming!

Always remember to listen, and be able to repeat back to the person what they have said. Another quick tip, don’t be so focused on what you are going to say next, focus on their words so you can repeat and paraphrase and then bring to the table your creative swagger.

Consciousness Codes advice bit two2-A good conversation is like playing catch, someone throws the ball then you have to toss it back. Keep in mind also that we are multidimensional beings and we have a physical body, an emotional body, mental body and for those who believe a spiritual body.

The key to good conversation is to appeal to all levels of someone’s existence.

If you only have physical conversations then you will only have a physical connection and a physical relationship…which dies out pretty fast.

Sorry perverts. 😉

Consciousness Code advice bit three3-Set an intention before the date or outing.

Do you want to know more about the persons family background? Do you want to find out who their favorite music group is? Do you want to go out on another date? (Save that one for the end obviously)

Keep note of what the person says and be able to paraphrase for them their words, and if you have something in common then say so. This commonality will make you appear more likeable, and they will know for a fact that you are listening.

Consciousness Code advice bit four4-Just be yourself, please! Be yourself and discuss topics that you resonate with. If the person is attracted to your core-ness then you will build a relationship where you feel so comfortable around the person, that conversation will flow effortlessly.

If you are focused on being something you are not, you will not only attract a pretty unhappy relationship; but your facade will eventually fade away, and when the mist clears you will more than likely part ways. Trust me on this one, I have seen it several times.

Okay, well that is it all for today-please comment as I appreciate all feedback. Unconditional Love be with you all!

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-London Holt