How Authenticity Attracts Soul-Mates 101

“Another post about being yourself London? How many times are you gonna say it? Everyone knows this already!”

Or do they?! 🙂

Okay, so in lieu of me having finished the final chapter of the book I had been working on titled How to Align With Your Soulmate: Why Authenticity Is The Catalyst In Your Love Life!- I honestly felt the need to do more post like these. Especially considering that it has been almost a year since my last post.

And, in addition to that I have learned so much more about soulmate-hood.

Don’t underestimate the power of authenticity for even a moment, or something bad will happen to you!

Yeah, though so…

In reality, my views are much more metaphysically and “controversial” as some have told me, but if I am gonna tell others to be authentically themselves-then I gotta practice what I preach right? Of course I do, or I will slip on a banana peel. And that stuff hurts yo 😦

How do you define authentic dating, and what benefit is it to me? 

If the above question has not popped into your head then you should be asking why authentic dating is different then from, say, a random blind date with your sibling’s cute friend. (Wait, is that just me?) Anywho, Authentic Dating is dating from a place of pure resonance and knowing what you want, while being brave enough to not only be yourself but going after what you truly desire, even in the face of “failure”-(Tempted to go on a rant right now, but this will be a future post.)

But what is the benefit? You attract very quality partners!!! I know from experience and testimony!

But of course there is much more to just “being yourself” and running around asking people out to wine and dine all willy-nilly. Thus I, and many others, wrote a book about it.

Do you see how much I love this dreadful world that slips up? lol (Just go with it!)

So where do you start? 

You start right now, at your laptop-iPad-grandma’s computer or wherever you are.

Authenticity is in the now.

More practically, just ask yourself-how can I be more of myself today? You see, being an authentic dater is something that helps you win out in the long run. Instead of kissing 20 sumthin’ frogs you go out with 5 Charmings or Cinderellas and choose from the cream of the crop.

And, when someone senses this they will respect it deeply. Don’t fall for the trap of selling yourself, as I’ve discussed before.

On the contrary however, I don’t think the real question is about starting, but why one has yet to start.

What are you so afraid of?

The fear of authenticity- if it were a disease, then our society would be an epidemic on a pogo-stick campaigning in the hearts of many with no rest attached to a bullet train shouting ” I got you suckas!”. (run on sentence or nah?)

Seriously, I feel and have personally analyzed that the world we live in conditions us to not be authentic. Instead most people put on a mask and pretend to be someone else, while also covertly trying to get their needs met (a recipe for disaster and depression).

Were you raised with a certain religious background with which you disagree and are afraid of being disowned? Still have yet to come out the closet? Do you like watching japanese anime in your underwear?!

The pain of it all.

Yet, the fact of the matter is that you can procrastinate on doing your laundry, or even warming up your TV dinner, but you never procrastinate when it comes to being yourself.

Practical Tip-Try being open with a close friend about something you may have been hiding. Ask yourself, what am I afraid of losing? And think how has this caused me to pull away or hide parts of myself in relationships. Be honest!

Metaphysical Jibberish-Being yourself charges your soul allowing you to be set into resonance with what you truly desire-some call it Karma, The Law of Attraction/ Resonance or reaping what you sow. Being authentic sends a message to The Universe to reflect back to you your true desires, uncolored by others expectations and conditions-This is why Authenticity is the key to soul-mates. Eh, deep enough?

Okay, well I don’t want to type too much but seriously to those who are reading-please learn the value of being yourself and that it is a pre-requisite to manifesting your soul mate! Give people the chance to fall fully for who you are and experience true unconditional love…or slip on a banana. Enough said.

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-London Holt

Yin and Yang Dating, How Your Affinity Affects Your Dating Life

The Yin and Yang symbol is very popular, yet do you know the true meaning of this symbol? 

The Yin-Yang symbol comes from Chinese Philosophy and is a symbol of balance, with both pieces being unique yet connected and complimentary.

But how does this symbol connect to your dating life?

You see, everything has a yin and yang aspect to it. (as pictured above)

For instance, even inhaling is considered yin and exhaling yang!

However, when it comes to dating you want to make sure you are using both of these energies to manifest a balanced relationship.

So are you a yin, yang, or balanced dater?

DISCLAIMER: I wanted to note that yin and yang is dualistic in nature, yet when it comes to the nature of the yin and yang it can also be considered a spectrum, regardless of gender or sexual orientation. You may in fact show qualities of both to a certain degree so keep this in mind as you read this post!

Yin Dater-A Yin dater is very shy and prefers for others to make the first move. A yin dater also spends much time fantasizing about potential romance so much so that they may even fall for an internal fantasy, instead of the actual person!

If you are a yin dater then you have a skill for working on your own baggage, and going through deep levels of reflection after a date to get a better picture of what you want in a relationship.

However, a yin dater must take more action! Don’t always wait for the other person to make the first move, this is also because if you are a yin dater than you may be a tad bit more emotional. Thus, in relationships you would also need to work on expressing your emotions and not bottling them up; only to have your emotions explode or turn into festering resentment.

Yin is a powerful energy for healing, yet yang is just as important so lets see if you are a yang dater.

Yang Dater-Having an abundance of yang energy while dating can make for a very exciting romantic life! If you are a yang dater then you are the person who makes the first move, chooses the dates and even parks the car 😉

In other words, yang energy is all about action, which balances out the yin energy. However, there is a weakness in having too much yang energy; that is, sometimes yang daters can be very cocky, overbearing and risk using dating and relationships as a way to escape their inner turmoil.

Too much yang energy can cause you to search for dating and love as a form of escapism!

Yang is a wonderful energy to cultivate, but too much can hurt you, unfortunately. Yang daters can benefit from meditation, deep reflection and also keeping a journal to get those emotions down on paper.

Yet, is there a way to get the best of both worlds? Of course there is!

Balanced Dater-Yin and yang are not energies in competition with one another, but two forces meant to work harmoniously together. You may, like most, have several qualities that are yin and yang in nature yet being a balanced dater is idea.

A balance dater knows when to take action, but also when to look within and question your motives in pursuing someone.

A balanced dater will take the time to work on personal baggage and self love and work from this “complete” space to manifest a loving relationship.

A balanced dater is a conscious dater who takes into consideration the subsequent effect of their actions on others, and also themselves (mindfulness).

Cultivating the yin and yang balance however is much easier than most would tell you and it is even something I teach in my Relationship Coaching practice; as well as conscious dating.

So which type of dater are you currently? Which energy do you need more of to balance yourself, yin or yang? Think about it.

In the meantime, have a wonderful day!

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-Conscious Creation Singles and Relationship Coach London Holt

When It Comes To Dating And Relationships, Is There Such a Thing as The Perfect Person ?

Alas! I have finally pulled my thoughts together to bring you one of the greatest insights of my life. We get to tackle this question of perfection and whether or not your soul mate is out there waiting to be discovered, or if you are with your soul mate this moment. Sound enticing? Of course it does! Be ready to get all enlightened and stuff 🙂

Okay, so here goes a disclaimer, a story and then a huge insight that is going to blow your mind like fireworks and sticks of dynamite had a baby (hehe)

Disclaimer-I am not a love guru, just a normal guy who does Relationship Coaching. I have an overwhelming amount of confidence and knowledge but my answers to questions are not perfect. In this blog we will even re-define perfection, and with the new definition I may be seen as having perfect answers, however. I know, such a beautiful contradiction.

Story– I once was having a candid conversation with my good friend (I will not use her real name but lets call her Sagree for now) and she had contacted me for some good ol’ relationship advice. We had met in a library cafe at Case Western Reserve University, but that didn’t stop us from laughing out loud as we exchanged our love wisdom.

She was having trouble in her dating life with a guy she had been pursuing for some time, and I was having trouble landing a date with a woman who seemed to be into me but was very shy.

During our conversation and after I helped Sagree with her issue, the focus shifted to me-the advice giver was gonna be the “givee” (I think that’s a word…if not then it should be one) Anyways, I found out that the reason I was having so many issues in dating and even past relationships was because of my deep rooted issue in perfectionism.

I was looking for something specific but did not know what is was specifically, and I am sure Sagree subtly picked up on this.

That was when she said something that blew my mind…like fireworks had a baby with sticks of dynamite.

As the insight entered her seemingly from the ether and staring in suspended animation at the floor she asked hesitantly, “London…instead of looking for the perfect person, why not look for someone to perfectly grow together with?”

A moment of silence hit us both in a library that was ironically anything but silent.

It made me go through a second of mega-reflection where I saw every relationship and romantic encounter I have ever had flash before my eyes.

I was scaring women away because I was trying to change them into something else, or I felt like they were trying to change me…That’s not unconditional love but unconditional selfishness.

Sagree and I discussed the concept more and then went on to discuss some other topics.

But the point being made is that perfection is such a subjective phenomenon, yet the true challenge is not to look for the perfect person but to accept yourself and the person in front of you perfectly for who they are in the current moment.

The moment someone feels like you are trying to change them into something they aren’t, then arguments will begin, resentment will fester, and inevitable distancing will take place. And when distance takes place then the imagination mixed with emotions will begin to brew misconceptions.

Many people don’t even break up with their partner or cancel a second date because they hate the person, but they are in fact and more than likely rejecting the misunderstanding. Honest communication is illuminating in dark times.

My friend Sagree really helped open my eyes to this reality, and it is a tip I can assure you will change the way you approach romantic situations.

Lastly, I must say that there are cases of love at first sight and strong resonance, and if someone is your soul mate then you will know deep down.

But, it will mostly come down to whether or not you are willing to fight your own demons and un-love energies to get to your happily ever after.

Many of the issues we have can be projected onto others, and so the perfection of who they are is clouded…but I will discuss this more in a future blog post. (Duh, duh, duh) Cliffhanger!

And by the way I did end up getting the date with that woman, but we decided to go our separate ways.

It happens, and that doesn’t take away from my perfection or hers, where perfection is the state of just being who you are in the moment while accepting your flaws. Okay, getting carried away again. But Sagree is still with that guy to this day years two years later! 😉

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So, is your mind blown? Any paradigms shift? Leave comments please!

Peace, Hope and Pure Unconditional Love be with everyone–over and out.