Okay, so what the heck is a dating trap and why does it sound like a death sentence?
Because it is!!!!!
Upon reading an amazing book by David Steele, Conscious Dating The Book, I had even more powerful insights to share with people.
In addition to David Steele’s information there is a whole host of other sites and sources I am pulling from, including my own experiences in dating, so be ready for a powerful, metaphysical, nerdy, witty take on some stuff that really makes the difference between relationship success-or certain heart break.
I care for everyone and that is why I am doing this blog just so you know (awww, how cute London!) Yes I know, I am your information sugar daddy lol
WHAT IS THE MARKETING TRAP ALREADY?
Calm down my fellow info junky, let me answer one question first, and that is; what is a dating trap? Well, Mr. Steele defines a dating trap as a preventable mistake that when made in Dating and Relationships will lead to inevitable conflict, and eventual frustration and separation.
In other words, you do this and you will end up in a long line for divorce or separation. Yet for my singles and those of you who aren’t married yet, you can avoid these traps and also a painful heart break. (And these traps apply to everyone, no matter your sexual orientation)
The marketing trap is simply putting on a show when you meet someone. That’s it.
Now, I can hear some people saying, “Oh, but everyone does that! Everyone puts on their best show while dating.” Yes, this is true, but to a certain extent.
You see, in the marketing trap people tend to put on a facade to woo you over, or you as the person setting the trap will say whatever you need to hit the jack pot. (Whatever that is for you personally)
Examples of The Marketing Trap Are as Follows:
1. Guy meets girl, they like each other, they go out on date but guy shows up in his dad’s Bentley. Guy even goes so far as to arrange a date at a very fancy restaurant. He pays a lot of money for a fancy meal, and does it all in cash! The issue? Home boy works at Pizza Hut. Yeah, those were his tips from the last nine months…
Outcome: After getting together, they argue about money, but he sells her the promise of more…she eventually leaves for a guy with more money.(I ain’t saying she a gold digger)
2. Girl meets guy, they like each other and they go to a beach. Girl acts very ditzy, and “easy” allowing the guy to dominate the conversation and even pretend like she doesn’t know the answer to simple questions. The issue? She was just accepted into Harvard Law School. I know, this is a good thing but again she is ” not being herself” Guy falls for the facade.
Outcome: They begin dating, but the guy is very aggressive and a chauvinistic (fill in bad word of choice here). The woman feels like her “voice” is not being heard and that her intelligence is not appreciated. He leaves her for a girl who plays a better part of an “air head” so he can feel like a “man”-whatever that means.
Alright, I had another but I am sure you get the point now, right?
The Marketing Trap is when someone inherently does not feel like they are good enough as they are, so they put up a perpetual facade only to feel unloved later in the relationship and mislead their victim.
This trap leads to another phenomenon for those who get very serious called the “Who the heck did I may marry effect”
It is very sad, but sometimes instead of falling in love with someone we can fall for the illusion, the facade instead of the truth. Some break their own hearts by ignoring this red flag/trap. 😦
So why is this important to know?
How can someone prevent this horrible trap?
Furthermore, are you the one being trapped, doing the trapping, or both?
(This is where you reflect and get a huge insight, okay?)
Enlightenment!
The way you overcome this trap is simple, and you have already heard me say it over and over in my other posts-and I say it a lot while coaching people as many don’t do this!
Be yourself! Yes, from the first date be who you are.
Let your obnoxious laugh erupt.
Talk about your addiction to RPG games.
I am not saying scare the person away with eccentric individualism, but you will intuitively know when you are not being you. It will be a gut feeliing-sort of like that annoying voice from a GPS that lets you know you need to redirect and align with the true you!
That way if someone falls for you, then it will be with the real you-not some mask you purchased from a dollar store last minute before Halloween (Wait, am I the only person who does that?)
The bottom line is simple,
In order for The Universe to send you what you want, you must be willing to say no to what you don’t want so as to receive that which you truly deserve.
Boom! Another Explosive Insight (A.E.I) haha
I have been a trapper many times in my life and I know that women do not like when guys put up a facade. In fact, when I think of the women who broke up with me, and who I broke up with it usually connected to this trap in some way shape or form. Just be you, because no one else can that for you.
But, it doesn’t end here!!! (Duh, duh, duhhh!)
Did you know that there are altogether 14 Dating Traps! Again, they all are listed in David Steele’s book. I will blog about the other traps as well in beautiful detail.
But, have no fear for now just apply and master this first one.
Leave a comment about when this trap has played a part in heart break for you, let your experiences be a lesson for someone else!
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