They say beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and I believe this is true as we all have different qualities and qualifications we may hold close and dear to our hearts while searching for “the one”.
And even for those of you in relationships already, I am sure there were certain traits that attracted you to the person.
Perhaps it was simply the way they dress, or the way the person laughs, or maybe a deeper quality such as them being a good listener.
Yet, the paradox in relationships is that sometimes the qualities that attracted you to your partner may become the very things that tear you both apart! 
Yeah, I made the same face when I realized this interesting fact.
Perhaps it was cute when they wanted a reply to every text, you felt so “needed” but now you feel like you are being smothered or interrogated. Perhaps you loved their laugh but now you feel embarrassed in public when they seem to screech. Perhaps time together was magical, but now you live together and you just want space.
What is the key to this inevitable contrast and power struggle? Of course good communication but another overlooked concept.
Two words.
Unconditional Love.
Unconditional love is not looking at your partner with rosy eyes and ignoring all of their shortcoming, but is a state of consciousness where you see the good, the bad and the ugly and you accept all as is.
You don’t seek to change your partner but you love without conditions.
I have noticed that usually when someone asks for relationship advice, that unconditional love will without a doubt come to the forefront of the conversation.
Why is unconditional love so important?
Because how we interact with others affects how they interact with themselves. If you are bashing your partner for their weaknesses, then this will cause emotional distancing in the relationship. You bashing them will cause them to bash themselves when you aren’t around. 😦
In fact, if someone else comes along who is more accepting than this will create temptation for your partner.
After all, who would you stay with, the person who is forcing you to change, or the person who accepts you for who you are? I am not condoning cheating or infidelity by the way, just shedding light. Furthermore, honesty and criticism is wonderful, but make sure it is constructive, not destructive.
Of course what I am saying will vary from situation to situation, but another important point is that unconditional love must be given to the self as well.
Love thy neighbor as thy self means express unconditional love to yourself and others.
So the next time someone’s weaknesses creep up, don’t be so tempted to instantly move on or call off the date, but use the angst as an opportunity to practice unconditional love and grow as a person.
I know, easier said than done but it can be with practice.
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Conscious Relationship Advice for Singles and Dating 